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Posted on 2010.12.06 at 00:16
Me Mood: morosesaddened
It has been a busy few weeks and I am TIRED. The next few weeks will be even more insane, whee, but that's what happens when you work retail during the holidays.

Let's see, update: Well, nothing much has changed in my life except for the fact that I noticed some old best friends had finally deleted me from facebook. Not to say that I am surprised, but it still saddens me nonetheless. Now why did they delete me? Oh yay, story time...

For those who do not know, my former best friend of 15 years, the maid of honor at my wedding... blah... waged an all out war against me last year. She took it upon herself to decide that I used her, was a sucky friend, had a lousy husband and lousy friends, etc. To make a long story short, I was a senior in college, working 3 jobs, newly married and I didn't make enough time for her. So what does she do? Not only does she ruin my birthday last year, but she made time to go to our old work, with people I consider family (hell my step-mum still works there) and tried to start a mizterplatypus smear campaign. She brought up stuff I told her in private about me, my hubby and my life. Mind you she was my best friend and I trusted her. The funny thing? She accused me of using info she entrusted to me against her. She said I used this info to use her for my wedding. Yes, she was my maid of honor, so her and my other high school bf paid for a dj $300.00, threw me a bridal shower and sang at my wedding.  I was grateful and thought they were merely helping me out since I have done more than my fair share of helping those 2 out over the years... helping them move, getting stuck paying over $3000 for one of their sister's weddings (she used my credit card and stuck me with an insane interest amount), co-signing for cell phones that I had to pay off since one of 'em defaulted, etc.

Oh, why did she ruin my b-day? She never gave me any rhyme or reason as to why. She simply never showed any interest, such as wishing me a happy birthday. She also forced me to make a painful decision that day about stepping away (as I so eloquently put it) from our friendship. I cried for 3 days straight after that... happy b-day tif. Unfortunately, by breaking off my friendship with her, I lost my other high school bf and her family that I had loved very dearly. They all deleted me from fb (after knowing me for over 16 years) all because of the rantings of a BITTER, vindictive person.  I was told by my old work buddies (mind you, this is all hear-say) that she went around (A PUBLIC STORE) stating my husband was a felon and that I "said" that my high school bf (the one who deleted me off of facebook) did a horrible job doing the bridesmaids hair. One of the gals at my old work (all of them, btw, told off my former "friend" when she tried to ruin my reputation) that she also said that I thought my high school bf did a terrible job singing at my wedding. Obviously, this is false info, made to make me look like an a**hole. I imagine, that my high school bf and her family must all think I am a beast and that greatly saddens me. I never and WOULD NEVER say that she did a terrible job singing at my wedding... in fact she did a BEAUTIFUL job. People still comment on how great she and her father were and I was honored to have such a great gift given to me and my husband. However, what I did mention to my former best friend was that I wish my bridemaids got their hair done professionally. I regret that now, as it was obviously taken out of context.

So the result? I lost not only my former back stabbing bf, but my old bf from high school and her family.  Why am I so upset over this? Really? Why would they believe her? She has dragged this on FOR OVER 7 months now. She is evil as far as I am concerned... but maybe I am being too harsh. In reality, she is lonely and I did the worst thing I ever could to her... I got married and improved my self-esteem. I had mentioned at one point that she was my guardian angel, but now I see her for what she is, a wolf, no... demon in sheep's clothing.

Sorry for the rant and lack of posts... they may be spotty the next few weeks until after the holidays. I hope all of you are doing well!

Comments:


wesa at 2010-12-06 06:06 (UTC) (Link)
Oh crap I had no idea.
mizterplatypus
mizterplatypus at 2010-12-06 18:45 (UTC) (Link)
yeah... I've kept a lot in. Yesterday it just came to a boil and I had to let it out. I came to the conclusion that those two were never truly my friends to begin with. Anyone who will only accept me on their terms isn't worth a second glance over.
Amber
dancingintro at 2010-12-06 06:13 (UTC) (Link)
All you can do is be yourself and eventually, she'll do something to them to make them realize shes not exactly an honest person. It doesnt sound like youre going to, but retaliating or saying nasty things in return will only give her something to point to and go "See! I told you!!" After a while, they'll realize that whats shes saying and how you actually act or acted doesn't match up.
mizterplatypus
mizterplatypus at 2010-12-06 18:46 (UTC) (Link)
I totally agree with you! I believe she has tried to pull a lot of stunts to get a reaction from me! I will never give her that satisfaction! :)
Loli clothing
misskittiness at 2010-12-06 09:59 (UTC) (Link)
Lj is the place for ranting and by the sounds of it, you have right to rant.
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mizterplatypus
mizterplatypus at 2010-12-06 18:46 (UTC) (Link)
I hope so too... 7 months is long enough! lol
Fire Muse
and_yet_i_fight at 2010-12-06 14:50 (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry :( she sounds awful! Women are so catty! I hope your other friend realizes what's going on and comes back.

Happy holidays :)
mizterplatypus
mizterplatypus at 2010-12-06 18:47 (UTC) (Link)
Happy Holidays to you too! Can't believe it is already December! lol
Dani
anarchick at 2010-12-06 14:53 (UTC) (Link)
wow!
glad that you let it out
Drea California XO
xxenviixx at 2010-12-07 09:06 (UTC) (Link)
Oh am I happy not to work retail around the holidays! Seems like it'd be murderous.

I'm so sorry about your ex friend, what an asshole. I fail to understand how people can act like that after the age of fifteen or sixteen; the entire episode of mouthing off to people you are also close with and attempting to ruin your reputation is so incredibly juvenille that you'd hope it'd be the kind of thing only a high school or middle school child would try to pull off. Frankly, anyone who cannot act like an adult should not have the privileges of being an adult.

It's a good thing she's out of your life!
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